Householder’s is a home decor and gift boutique that I opened on October 13, 2007.  It is named after my grandfather, Doctor John Householder who struggled with Alzheimer’s Disease for nearly ten years.  I have since closed the shop, however I value the experience and am so happy I was able to have the opportunity to follow my dream.

 Here is the full story:

“I hope that never happens to my grandpa” – that is what I said to myself as a little girl after seeing a commercial about Alzheimer’s disease. I couldn’t imagine how awful it would be if my grandfather didn’t want to play with me anymore because he got a disease that made him forget who I was. I banished the thought, turned off the TV, and went to tend to my dolls. I didn’t think about it again until 1993, when my mother informed me that my grandfather had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.

I felt numb standing there by the dresser, fiddling with some knick knack, as she told me of the diagnosis. While she was talking, I imagined all the horrors of a disease I knew very little about – all I knew was that it made you forget -everything and everybody. What I didn’t know, and couldn’t possibly, was that what transpired in the following years is what gives me my purpose today.

My grandfather’s name is Doctor John Householder. Yes, Doctor, it is his actual given name, not a title or occupation. He was known to his friends and siblings as Doc, known to his daughters as “Daddy”, and known to me as “GH”, which stood for Grandpa Householder. He was born March 14, 1922; the first of three children. He had a sister, Martha, and two brothers, Abe and Russell Jr. His mother died when he was very young, and his father remarried a woman named Lillian, and they went on to have a son, George. The five children grew up in Junction City, Ohio – a small rural town where his father owned the Hardware and Feed Store, served on the school board, and was the local bank president. In the late 1940’s, his father bought a 200 acre farm and became a part time farmer. The farm had beef cattle, pigs, chickens, and fields of wheat, hay, corn, and soybeans, as well as a large flower garden.

GH joined the Navy in the 1940’s, and served in World War II, Korea, and the reserves during Vietnam. He married a woman named Margaret and had three children; two daughters – Linda Marie and Shirley Anne – and a son, John Michael. GH was an electronic technician aboard many of the Navy destroyers –my mother, Linda, remembers going aboard every ship he was on when he was at port, and how exciting it was to see how the sailors lived on those huge vessels. He divorced in the late 50’s, but continued to raise the three children, never remarrying. GH retired from the Navy in 1966 as Master Chief of Electronics. He moved his family to Daytona Beach, Florida where he pursued a career in real estate. Not long after his retirement, he moved back to Junction City to care for the farm and his aging parents; while his grown children stayed behind in Daytona to pursue the lives they had begun.

That is where my story begins – in Daytona Beach, where I was born in 1977. My mother and father divorced when I was two, but we stayed in Daytona where my mother worked at the local hospital as a registered nurse. I remember going to Junction City to visit GH on the farm. I remember going with him to the Top Hat Restaurant, where he went everyday for lunch, and as soon as we walked in it seemed like the whole restaurant would say “Hey Doc”, and he would always introduce me as “my best friend”. It was like being with a famous person, minus the paparazzi; everyone knew him, and seemed to adore him as much as I did. I remember fishing for blue gill in the pond, where I would willingly dig up the worms for bait, but begrudgingly put them on the hook; and at dusk, catching jars full of lighting bugs; and what was my favorite part of the visit – the morning feeding of the barn cats. GH and I would walk up to the barn from the main house, carrying aluminum bowls filled with milk and dog food, and I would desperately try not to spill any even though my short legs were no match for the jagged gravel of the lane. We would dead end into a large barn where the cats would wait, he would “meow” to coax them from their hiding places. They scattered when they saw me, but their kittens were always left behind for me to pick up and snuggle (one of which came home with me, much to my mother’s dismay).

He would also come to visit us in Daytona quite frequently. I remember putting a lace tablecloth on my head making him marry me. I remember we would go to up to the corner candy store to get my favorite candy, Sixlets. I remember having a coloring contest that my mother was the judge of, where during his bathroom break, I felt insecure about my coloring ability, so I scribbled yellow all over his drawing, and when he came back and asked what happened I innocently said I was trying to help his picture and that it looked better with the yellow scribbles. He agreed, but I won the coloring contest – a hollow victory achieved by crayon sabotage. Bratty? A little – But he was a saint to put up with it!

I kneeled on the sofa and cried every time he left to go home. Ask my mother, to her, she will say he was the disciplinarian, a stern patriarchal figurehead – I am sure he had to be, a single father trying to keep them all in line …but to me – he was my kind hearted soul mate.

My mother and I moved to Atlanta in 1985. I went to Evansdale Elementary and then to Pleasantdale, and then to Henderson High School – where I formed deep friendships with many of the people that are still very much involved in my life today, including my husband, Greg.

It was in 1993 when I learned that GH had gotten lost during a trip to see some of his friends in Hiawasee. My mother and my Aunt Shirley had to go pick him up, and quickly took him to a doctor for a checkup. It was then that he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, a condition that had started a couple of years prior. We were all devastated. We decided it was best to move him to from the small town farm to the big city, where he would split time living at my mother and my aunt’s house. No one knew exactly what to expect, especially me. He attended my graduation from Henderson in 1995 – wearing a UGA tie, a little slower in step, but spirited and happy for me, just like he always was.

I went to the University of Georgia where I began to study Physical Therapy. I quickly learned they didn’t offer that major and I’d have to transfer, so I decided my sophomore year to get on the program waiting list at Georgia State University. At GSU, I changed my mind about physical therapy and ended up trying every other major that was offered. I am artistic and creative, almost to a fault, so I spent a long time trying on different careers – all the way up until now.

During my many years at college, I lived with some friends, while GH went back and forth between houses. Since I was back in town, I was able to easily visit and help out with his escalating care needs. Every chance I got to educate myself on the disease, I took. Every class that involved a term paper, I found way to spin it so I could write about Alzheimer’s disease. I basically majored in Alzheimer’s disease; they just didn’t offer a degree for it. My roommates both got engaged, and with their nuptials pending, I suddenly had no where to live. In what turned out to be perfect timing, I moved back in with my mother in 1999. Alzheimer’s progresses in stages and as the brain deteriorates, it results in not only memory loss and confusion, but a loss of physical function – like how to eat and how to walk. It became clear that it was not beneficial to GH anymore to move from one house to another, so he came to live with my mother and I, permanently. Here I was at home, every day, to witness the vicious progression of the disease.

What was probably most shocking to me was the fact that he knew what was happening to him. It is one thing to be forgetful but unknowing, it is quite another to be faced with the fact that you know your brain isn’t working as it should, and you can’t say what you are tying to say. As GH used to say too often when he would get frustrated, “It’s just hell to get old.”

We tried pharmaceutical interventions to help ease some of the symptoms, unfortunately, the side effects can sometimes be much worse than the benefits. Our family was lucky enough to give him the quality of life he deserved, and we were able to take care of him in a setting where he would be comfortable. He was rarely combative, what can be a common attribute of the disease making it very difficult for home caregivers – which is why sometimes the only choice for care is a skilled nursing facility. My mother is a nurse, so we had those skills to draw upon, and she taught me everything I needed to know, and I educated myself on the rest. Even when he couldn’t verbalize his thoughts anymore, I took comfort in a glimmer that I would see in his eyes when I walked into the room. My biggest fear was that he would forget who I was. I still don’t think he ever did.

The night before his last day, my mother and I sat with him in his room and looked through old photographs, reminiscing and telling stories. The next morning, before I went to class, I kissed him on the cheek, told him I loved him and that everything would be OK. He died, peacefully, at home later that afternoon. It was April 12, 2001; he lived with the disease for nearly ten years. Even when death is expected, it still maintains an indescribable depth of sadness.

We honored GH’s last wishes to be cremated, and dispersed his ashes off of Florida’s Gulf Coast. That is where my husband and I – after 12 years of dating – got married on October 19, 2006. We live in a house two streets over from Evansdale, where we met for the very fist time over 22 years ago. Greg was a tremendous help to my family and I during the time we were caring for GH. Greg is a lot like him, aside from being tall and lanky – he has that same kind soul.

As for my career, I finally found my calling – everything I have experienced has led up to my decision to open my own business. It is aptly named Householder’s – and is a home décor and gift boutique in Tucker. Many items are offered as part of an ongoing “Forget Me Not” promotion, where a portion of the proceeds goes directly to the Alzheimer’s Association. Many of these items are handmade, on the farm, by members of the Householder family! It is with great faith that by sharing this story with the community, I will be able to continually make a difference in the lives of those that are now struggling with this disease.

Householder’s – Home Decor and Gift Boutique

Super cute gift items!  Completely handmade!  Booties, legwarmers, custom orders available just ask!

Math - Well, it’s a sale, so savings are 15% – 50 % off regular prices!  Also, Trapp candles are 2 for $45!

English – All Books are 20% off!

Science – Thymes Bath and Body, includes Kimono Rose, Filigree,  Wild Ginger, and Sweetleaf Baby are 20% off!

History - I am extending the discount offers for items previously on sale – this includes, but is not limited to, outdoor rugs which are at 40% off and April Cornell’s Sonnet quilted table collection which is also 40% off!

Lunch - AS always, with any sale or special event, I will have some sweet treats available!  YUM!

Art – Any custom orders (sorry, this does not include silhouettes or monogramming) for glassware, diaper cakes, jewelry, gift baskets, and/or party decor will be discounted 15%!  Orders must be placed by August 30th.  Please, don’t hesitate to ask about custom work – I am full of ideas and we CAN create a perfect, totally exclusive, gift!

Recess/Physical Education - Protect your cheeks from the blazing sun with Barkology caps and visors - 20% off!

The Back to School Sale will end on August 23rd! 

Attention Wine Lovers!

Come in and see a new product, The Wine Whisk!  It is the new must-have gadget that is a bottle stopper and aerator all in one!  It has multiple uses in the kitchen and is a handy tool for whatever needs whisking!  Read more at www.winewhisk.com

Coming Soon

New and exciting products – including fun, totally girlie stuff from Fairy Dust Ltd. and recycled Greeting Cards! 

Also, Householder’s will soon be getting a brand new website – you will be able to share Householder’s with all your friends, and shop online 24-7!!!

I hope to see you soon!

I had to delete the “happenings” page but I will bring it back as soon as possible.  If you have anything you would like featured, please let me know householders@comcast.net

In the meantime – please come in the shop and see what’s new, and what’s on sale! 

I hope you’re having a great summer!!!!

Photo credit: www.barkology.com

Ok, ok…..so the Iron Man himself wasn’t exactly in Tucker, but some talented papparazzo did spot RDJr. somewhere in Cali wearing Barkology’s Grrr cap – which of course, I carry right here in Tucker at Householder’s! Apparently, I have my finger on the pulse of fashion in Hollywood – so don’t miss out, get them while they last!  I have several styles in ball caps and even visors!  The stylish Barkology caps are also featured this month on my Featured Favorites page, so don’t forget to check there for some great gift ideas, deals, and some brand new items!

In other news, we all know it is ridiculously hot and gas is too expensive.  How can Householder’s help you ask?  Well, I have the air conditioning on in the shop, and I am in close vicinity to most of you so you don’t have to drive very far if you need a gift, or that all important treat for yourself that I am always encouraging!  Seriously though, I am here to help in any way I can! 

You want a custom gift basket?  Just ask! 

You need party favors?  Just ask! 

Bridesmaid gifts?  Just ask! 

Gifts for everyone in the office?  Just …you get the idea!

Let me know what you are looking for and I will do my very, very best to make that a reality – and as quickly as possible!  Householder’s is your trusty neighborhood boutique and I welcome your input and suggestions, and even complaints…though I would prefer those kept to a minimum J

Lastly, I am taking my Party-to-Go tote and B.E.A.C.H napkins, S.N.O.B nightshirt, and several pairs of Oka B flip flops and I am heading down to the beach the last week of June.  (If you don’t know what I am talking about then please come in and I will show you these “must-haves” for your summer vacations!)  Never fear though, Householder’s will remain open during the regular business hours and there will be some friendly faces here to help. 

I’ll have you seeing green with these SALE ITEMS

Through the end of June:

Quilted table linens are 20% off

Outdoor coir mats are 40% off

 All Picture Frames are 20%

Among several other items – individually marked, savings up to 40%!!!

Thanks so much for your loyal support and referrals! 

I hope you all are enjoying your Summertime (it’s almost official)! 

I was happy to make these glasses for their special day!  And I’d be happy to make something for your special day!  Please see my Custom Projects page for more information!

Not just another “pretty shoe.”  There’s much more!

• Massaging Footbed (a treat with every step!)
• Waterproof & Non-Slip (ideal for the pool or beach…some upcoming Memorial Day parties or vacations perhaps?! Go in style!  AND a perfect shoe for gardening, and I know you have been out there planting!  Your petunias are gorgeous!)
• Antimicrobial (totally cool, nobody likes a dirty or stinky foot, no matter how pretty)  & Mashine Washable (or the dishwasher, if you dare)
• Reflexology-inspired design (for total body wellness!)
• Manufactured RIGHT HERE (ok, a little north) in Buford, Georgia (Safe products made in the USA)
• Vegan Friendly and Environmentally Conscious (Oka B helps you to ”leave a lighter footprint” and Reduce, Reuse, Recycle!)

Sorry Kermit – It IS easy being Green!

P.S. Of course, these are great gifts!

 Mother’s Day (don’t forget dear mum, or if you are a mother, be sure to treat yourself because you ARE fabulous!) Spring and Summertime Birthday Girls, Bridesmaids – What better gift than a pair of Oka B’s and a day of bonding at the spa getting those tootsies pampered and polished!

You don’t have to wait any longer.  Come try them on today!

The lucky winner of the drawing is….

Isa Mohtaj

Congratulations Isa, and thank you all for participating!

Flip flop season is my favorite time of year – truly, there is no shoe option that I can think of that is more comfortable.  There is no better feeling than that of a gentle breeze whispering across your tootsies, in all their exfoliated, buffed, and polished glory….

I am looking to add a flip flop line to Householder’s already stellar assortment of wonderful items.  And in my resourcing adventures I have seen some of the most innovative trends in flip flop style and technology.  And some darn cute shoes.

So I have narrowed the options down to two lines that I think are equally fabulous.  And I want you to decide what you would like to see in ”your” store.  Check them out, and let me know your thoughts.  You can either email me at  householders@comcast.net or add your comments directly to this post and we can have a good ol’ fashioned debate!

The debate will close April 18, 2008 – Because I need to place an order so that I will have these shoes in time for the start of the season…

In no particular order, here are your candidates:

#1 Oka B – www.shoesthatloveyou.com

These shoes are manufactured in Buford, GA from recycled materials – and when you are bored with them you can bring them back to me and I will return them to said manufacturer where they will then recycle them again to make even more cute shoes…and as a thank you for being a friend to the environment, Householder’s will then give you a discount on a new pair!  I have received multiple reports of superior comfort level (as the design is based in reflexology); and they are antimicrobial, and washable!  They are also NON-SLIP ( a must for anyone who has ever slipped out of their flops and felt that twinge, nay, excruciating pain, that accompanies the ensuing ankle injury – which may or may not include swelling and a very colorful bruise…oh, the perils of fashion.  There are a bunch of super cute designs in hot colors, be sure to mention your favorites (I cannot order one of each style).  They are extremely HIGH quality at very reasonable prices.  One particular style would also allow you to interchange a ribbon and change up the whole look of the shoe!

#2 Switchflops – www.switchflops.com

Essentially, you can buy one pair of flip flops, and you can easily turn that one pair into an entire flip flop empire with 58 easily changeable strap options.  For the flip flop obsessed (don’t be ashamed) this is a dream come true!  Dress them up, dress them down – you’ll be stylin’ all around town….

Imagine how much more room you could have in your closet for that funky giraffe print purse you got at Householder’s (I know you have been eyeing it because you are a fashion forward mover and shaker, and you know it is an absolute MUST HAVE for your summertime purse collection – Dooney and Burke’s version is gorgeous, but it is also leather - which is much too heavy for summertime. Not to mention Dooney is pricey, we all need a a “status bag” but save your splurges on classic designs that never go out of style, not on trends! But you already know this rule.  The one I offer is 20% off right now too, but I digress – back to flip flops…) 

So you have made room in your closet for that purse because you eliminated the need for 30 pairs of flip flops, NOW imagine how much room you also added to your suitcase when you only have to pack one pair of shoes for your entire vacation!  But with all those strap options, no one will ever know you only brought one pair of flops - but they will be seething with jealousy because you have the perfect flop for every outfit…now, where did you hide the bag with all your shoes in it?! 

OK! Get to commenting… pretty please  

Keep it friendly, nobody wants any trouble – this is the Great Flip Flop Debate, let’s not turn it into the Flip Flop Smack Down. 

Thanks for your help! 

Remember, April 18th is the last day for comments! 

THE BEST PART - one lucky commenter (to be drawn at random) will be rewarded with a FREE pair of the winning flip flops!